Obama's Speech on Father's Day
Happy Father's Day to all those dads taking good care of their families! I just read a text of Barack Obama's father's day speech at the Apostolic Church of God in Chicago and loved it. I'm glad he was...
View ArticleJuggling Marriage, Career & Toddlers
I am so thrilled to be done with graduate school! The one person I owe the greatest debt of gratitude is my husband. He has supported me every inch of the way including juggling our schedules to make...
View ArticleHoneymoon Expectations
The best part of planning a wedding is planning the honeymoon. Wedding planning is stressful; some couples fantasize of dropping vendors, family and friends and eloping to a honeymoon suite miles away...
View ArticleHappy New 2009!
Its been awhile since I wrote the last blog - we've been rather busy. I had my graduation ceremony on December 14th after completing the graduate program back in June. We also had several gigs with our...
View ArticleMillenials Relationships Influenced by the Obamas
I just read this story on Newsweek on how millenials are influenced by President & Mrs. Obama's marriage. It's no secret that I'm an Obama fan but I've tried to stay off the bandwagon on posting...
View ArticleWithholding Sex To Achieve Political Change - Kenyan Women
This was a great and funny story to read on CNN today - Kenyan women decided to go on strike and deny their husbands sex until political reform was achieved. Why am I not surprised as a Kenyan woman? I...
View ArticleJon & Kate plus 8 - Back Off This Couple!
I recorded last night's season premiere of Jon & Kate Plus 8 for the first time ever! I've watched about 15 episodes before but never used to record them. I'm in my 30's married with two boys and...
View ArticleHow We Handle Conflict Determines Relationship Survival
How we handle conflict in our relationships determines whether the dating relationship or marriage will survive. Back in Kenya, I knew pastors who would not marry a couple unless they had fought once...
View ArticleCommitment and Political Affairs - Sanford and Others
What a strange week that ended? First it was the worrying news of the missing Governor Sanford from South Carolina who turned up to have been 'crying in Argentina' over his affair with an Argentinian...
View Article19 Signs of Close Call Friendships - Affairs
I recently heard Dave Carder present on "Close Calls", 19 signs that a friendship will potentially lead to an affair. It was at the 2009 Smart Marriages Conference in Orlando. I have never heard...
View ArticleShamelessly Facilitating Affairs For Married Couples
My husband and I were watching a show two nights ago when this ad encouraging married couples to cheat on their spouses came on during break. It tells a married man that he can get away from a one...
View ArticleSex-starved marriages - Rabbi Shmuley & others
The most frequent question asked during premarital classes is how often a married couple should have sex in a week. I've been catching clips of Rabbi Shmuley on different shows and I was intrigued...
View ArticleSo You Want To Be a Work-At-Home Mom
I discovered Jill Hart's website for Christian Work At Home Moms right after I decided to stay home while going to grad school in 2006. I had just given birth to our first son (2005) and I was...
View ArticlePrenatal Blues, Depression and Relationships
There seems to be more information available on postpartum depression (after pregnancy) than prenatal blues or depression (during pregnancy). In July 2008, I noticed unusual mood swings during my...
View ArticleKeeping Your Joy During The Christmas Season
Over the last couple of years, the month of December has been catching me by 'surprise'. Its generally a whirlwind from November all through to the New Year with church events, our Positively Africa...
View ArticleAchieving Your 2010 Goals With The Change Model
Happy New 2010 and the start of a new decade! I checked the Merriam-Webster dictionary online and decided goals and resolutions should co-exist. It defines 'resolution' as 'a formal expression of...
View ArticleBaby Interruptus - Marriage After Babies
The birth of our first son launched my efforts to help young couples thrive in their first years of marriage. We now have two preschooler boys so the craziness of being a first time parent is waning...
View ArticleMr. Good Enough and Interracial Dating
I came across Lori Gottlieb's book "Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr. Good Enough" while browsing at a local bookstore. I first read the page where she describes the impact of feminism on her...
View ArticleWhen Close Girl Friends Relocate
My closest friend in town is relocating out of the country with her family and I'm surprised at just how sad I'm beginning to feel. The last time I felt this sense of loss was when my best friend/maid...
View ArticleScheduling Sex For Spontaneous Couples
I presented a workshop on Sexual Intimacy to wonderful group of church couples in Fort Lauderdale back in April and their reaction on scheduling sex was my initial reaction when I first heard about it!...
View ArticleChick-Fil-A Hosting Monday Date Nights - Palm Beach & Martin Counties
Chick-Fil-A restaurants will be hosting Date Night Mondays during the month of August in Palm Beach and Martin Counties here in South Florida. I am thrilled about it because you get to take the...
View ArticleCouples Who Laugh Together Stay Together?
Pastor and comedian Mark Gungor was a featured speaker at the grand finale of the South Florida Chick-Fil-A date night initiative. I knew about his work helping couples recapture laughter but had not...
View ArticleHelping Pastors With Struggling Marriages
Pastors and clergy struggling in their marriages often do not know where to turn for help. Their congregations are often ground zero and they fear that speaking out will lead to a loss of their...
View ArticleThings I'm Thankful For About America As An Outsider
I'm diverging from my usual relationship posts this Thanksgiving season. There's much to be thankful for about America as someone who was born in another country and I wanted to write a list and share...
View ArticleSetting Your "State of Our Union" Relationship Goals
My husband and I began setting "State of Our Union" goals back in January 2001 during our first year of marriage. Through the years, we've achieved some of the goals while others get moved to a new...
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